Learning to Milk a Cow

First fieldtrip of the year, we learned all about pasteurization and even got to milk a cow.  We also got to bring home 3/4 of a gallon of raw milk that we milked that day.

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Anna Bell was very patient with my kids as they struggled to learn the technique of milking.  Our friend, who was kind enough to let us come out to experience this first hand, was a fantastic teacher, and it wasn’t long before my daughter had a good grasp on the situation.  No pun intended, haha.0915161327a.jpg

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My son, even at a small disadvantage, managed to help fill the bucket.

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All in all it was a fantastic day and very educational.  Homeschooling at its finest, in my opinion.

Don’t Interrupt Me!

I am trying desperately to have a civilized, adult conversation with my friend.  We are right in the middle of trying to convince the other who is more worn out.  I did say “civilized”, we weren’t fighting, and “adult”, two adults conversing.  Don’t judge!  Suddenly, to my right, I feel a tap.

All of my nerves are in complete working order.  I felt the tap, I just chose to ignore it and hope that it would go back from whence it came.  Unfortunately, I am not that lucky.  Another tap, a little more aggressive this time.  Yes, I felt that one too.  I guess I am a glutton for punishment, because I chose to shrug that one off and continue in my conversation.

Then the, “Mom”, starts.  I turn my head to the direction of the interrupter, with such force I almost give myself whiplash.  Then I shoot that horrific glare that promises pain and agony if they continue down the path they are on.  They take the hint and decide to stand and wait patiently for an opening.  Obviously, this opening didn’t come quick enough so, the tapping starts again.

That is IT!  I can’t take it anymore, I spin around and let ’em have it.  “Do not EVER interrupt two adults when they are speaking.  That is so rude!  You know better!”  Then, “But mom!”  “Don’t ‘but mom’ me!”  Said child, then slinks off rather defeated and embarrassed from the lashing I just gave him in front of my friend, who is grinning the whole time, because she too has been there and is just grateful that at that moment in time her child is off playing and not causing the problem.

The rest of my adult conversation consisted of head shakes, eye rolls, and when will they learn, all from my end, of course.

We have all been there.  I remember on numerous occasions growing up, trying to wait patiently while my mom talked.  It was so agonizing to have to wait for a break in the conversation, that you were not sure would ever even come.  I even catch myself doing the same thing to my husband when I am needing his attention.  I am sure we have all done it or at least experienced the frustrations of being interrupted.

The reason I am sharing all this is because, while I was working with my son on his math lesson today, he said something that will change the way I interact with him from now on.  He said, “This is so easy.”  I rolled my eyes and said, “This is exactly what we did yesterday that took you two hours to get through.” “But since you sat with me and helped me through each problem, I am able to do it by myself today, without your help,” he continued, “you didn’t let me tell you that yesterday.”

See, yesterday was one of those days where I couldn’t figure out what I was doing wrong.  He was just doing basic division, for crying out loud.  He knows this, he has done it a million times, without my help.  He shouldn’t need it now.

Everytime  he would start to say something or ask for help, I would INTERRUPT him.  Everytime he looked distracted, when actually he just needed help, I wouldn’t listen to him. I would tell him that he knows this and should be able to do it on his own.  Now, don’t get me wrong, I ended up sitting next to him and walking him through each problem, but my attitude about having to do that made him feel “stupid”.   Instead of telling him it was okay and we all need a good refresher, I reiterated the fact that he had done this before and shouldn’t need help.

My point is, if I had just let him speak, without interrupting him and really listened to what he was trying to tell me, maybe yesterday would have gone a whole lot smoother for both of us.  I would have realized that he wasn’t just makin excuses and trying to get out of doing his math.  He just needed some refreshing and a little bit of patience on my part.  That is a work in progress, by the way.

If I am expecting him to be respectful and not interrupt me when I am speaking, then I should at least give him the same respect.  I find myself cutting him off a lot.  I don’t allow him the opportunity to explain his point of view without jumping in and letting him know how my view is better.  He is a smart kid and I need to learn to be a better listener and to stop interrupting.

Back to School

wp-1471533585893.pngWe officially started back to school this week.  I had initially planned on starting back on August the 8th, but due to some family stuff, we started on the 15th (one of the awesome benefits of homeschooling).

So, I just wanted to give a few words of encouragement, by letting you in on how our week went.  Yes, the beginning may not seem very encouraging, but I promise, it gets better.

Let me just start off by saying that our Monday was a typical Monday.  You know, the kind of Monday that makes you want to crawl back in your bed, hide under your covers, and continually repeat, “This too shall pass,” over and over in your head.  Yep, that was my Monday.

See, we are trying a new internet program.  My daughter loves it and like I have mentioned before, she is very self motivated, so I don’t have to do much for her unless she has a question about something.  My son, on the other hand, hated the program and face planted on my bed after about an hour of arguing with his tablet, and mumbling under his breath all the things he would rather be doing.

So, there I was, thinking that I had everything set for the year and he throws a rather impressive curve ball.  I left the pitiful child on my bed and retreated to the computer.  After a small meltdown on my part, (at least I didn’t face plant on my bed along with my child) I began figuring out what his school year would look like… again.  BTW, I don’t know what I would do if I was homeschooling during a time without the internet and all the resources it provides.

Needless to say, I got my ducks back in a row or at least in the same pond, and set him up with a more hands on approach that he needs.  I printed out multiple worksheets and a planner to write down his daily assignments on, and there you are.  I crawled out from under my blankets and acted like an adult.  By the way, I hate adulting, just FYI.

The remainder of the week went without incident, or at least nothing interesting enough to share.  Now I am just waiting for the next pitch and hopefully, with the help of my children, we can hit it out of the park.  There will always be those days where you just want to retreat to a dark corner and give up, but if you just hang in there, “This too shall pass.”

Leave a comment, I would love to hear about how your first days back are going.

 

10 Ways to Keep Your Sanity as a Homeschool Mom

Being a mom is a huge responsibility and at times can be very stressful and even overwhelming, but then, add homeschool to the title of “mom” and you have added whole new level of anxiety and stress.  Because of this, I have compiled a short list to help keep you sane during your homeschooling journey.wp-1470419943881.png

  1. READ A BOOK
    No, I am not talking about a textbook or a book about homeschooling.  Get a book from your favorite author and READ!
  2. TAKE FIELD TRIPS
    Field trips are awesome.  They get you out of the house, and your kids are still learning.  Take advantage of every opportunity you have.  Find a homeschool group in your area and get active.
  3. EXERCISE
    I have found that if I stay active and exercise, my overall energy level and mood are better.
  4. TAKE A DAY OFF
    There are some weeks that just need to be four days instead of five.  Take advantage of the fact that you can do this now that you homeschool.  In fact, our typical homeschool week is four days.  It works better for us and we use that fifth day to go visiting, hang out with our friends, or just chill out at the house.
  5. LET YOUR CHILDREN HELP
    Let your children help around the house.  Depending on the age of your children, there are plenty of things they can do to help you around the house, allowing you extra time to do things that only you can do.  Teaching your children to cook and clean won’t just benefit you, but it will be something they will use for the rest of their lives.
  6. HAVE A DATE NIGHT
    It is so important that you don’t put your relationship with your husband on the back burner.  That relationship comes before your children.  It isn’t going to do your kids any good if their parents are having marital issues due to a lack of intimate time together.  You need that time with one another to reconnect and just have fun.
  7. DON’T NEGLECT YOUR PERSONAL BIBLE STUDY AND PRAYER TIME
    Obviously these aren’t in any particular order, or this would be #1.  I can not tell you how many times I have had to just stop what I was doing (teaching) and put my head in my hands and pray.  Nothing long and extensive, just a couple of seconds of, “please help me through this and not lose my cool.”  It is unreal how much that can relax me, just acknowledging that I need help. This also gives you the opportunity to just take a couple of deep breaths and regroup.  Prayer has been huge for me during this whole process.  Don’t put God on the back burner either.  Earlier I said your relationship with your husband comes first, well, that is right after your relationship with God!
  8. CONNECT WITH OTHER HOMESCHOOL MOMS
    Being able to discuss your issues and concerns about homeschooling with other people who are also going through the same things, is such a blessing.  You will find out really quick that you are not alone, and having this support is truly a must.  It is also nice to just be able to vent sometimes, release that tension.
  9. TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF
    This is so important, at least for me. I need my alone time to recharge my battery so I am at least a halfway, normal functioning, human being.  I am never a fully normal, normal is overrated.
  10. ENJOY WHAT YOU ARE TEACHING
    If you aren’t liking the curriculum you are using, find something else.  If your kids are dreading their work, every, single day, then maybe it is time to try something different.  Mix it up, and have fun with it.  I am fully aware that there are always going to be things that we have to teach our kids, that are just not as fun or interesting as other subjects, but it shouldn’t always be a drag and a constant dread.

Learning should be fun and if you aren’t taking care of yourself then it is going to become just another chore that you are just trying to get through, each day.

May God bless you, as you find joy within your journey.

Living in a Third World Country (Part 5: The Close of a Chapter)

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Me singing with a small group of Christians from the San Fernando church of Christ.

As time went on and the weeks turned into months and months into years, Trinidad became a part of who I was.  Just like every move before, I adjusted and thrived.  I was very active with the young people at San Fernando Church of Christ and was even able to participate in my dad’s six week Greek class at the school.  I participated in any crusades we were having or tent meetings.  On multiply occasions, while my dad preached on a street corner, I was there and enjoying the fellowship with other Christians and the opportunity to share the Good News to anyone who was willing to listen.

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My dad holding a “spot” meeting.

 

The food became something I craved and still do to this day. Oh, to be able to bite into some Shark and Bake, while gazing out over the ocean at Maracas Bay.  What I wouldn’t give to be able to have my dad walk through the front door with our mid-morning snack, Doubles.  I wish I had payed more attention to my good friend Kiba, as she tried to teach me how to cook some of my favorite dishes.  I keep saying that one day I am going to attempt to cook some Roti.  As many times as I complained about the smell of the curry dishes cooking so early in the morning, I would give anything to smell that smell again.  You don’t miss it till it’s gone.

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My awesome friend Kiba and one of the best Trini cooks I know.

 

Being in Trinidad for two years was one of the most amazing experiences of my life.  I grew so much as a person and as a Christian and I know that I am a better person because of it.  I know my parents had their doubts about uprooting their two youngest children and moving them to another part of the world, but I am so glad that they took the chance and allowed us those opportunities that so few get to experience.

As I think back on it all, I am reminded of something my oldest sister told me not long before we moved.  She and I were riding in her truck and knowing how upset and scared I was about leaving, she reminded me of the scripture in First Corinthians 10:13.  Even though this scripture was referring to temptations and that God would not allow you to be tempted more than you could handle and He would always provide a way to escape those temptations, at this moment in my life, it reminded me that I was not alone in this journey, God would be with me.  God would see me through the difficult times and help me to overcome, and He did!

Living In a Third World Country (Part 4: Clean Your Plate)

 

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I had mentioned earlier in, Living in a Third World Country (Part 2: Getting Settled), that we stayed with an American couple for a couple of weeks, while waiting for our own house to be ready and our crates to arrive.  We had to stay with them for around two or three weeks, and while there was plenty of room for us in their house, it still wasn’t 100% comfortable for me.  This wasn’t my house so I always felt like I had to be on my absolute best behavior.  I wasn’t really happy being in Trinidad yet, and I felt like I had to put on a happy face while I was there.

Parker and Donna had been missionaries for the majority of their lives.  They lived and worked in Thailand for many years before moving to Trinidad where they had been for around 20 years.  Parker was the director, and taught different Biblical topics at the San Fernando School of Preaching and Teaching, and Donna passionately taught music there also.  They both took there jobs very seriously and were very well respected there.  It wasn’t long before I felt the same towards them as the majority of anyone who ever met them would.  They were and still are a very cherished couple to many, many people.

That being said, I can’t say that this was how I felt about them to begin with, and it took a little while before I did.  Don’t get me wrong, I always appreciated them and was thankful for everything they did for us during those first several weeks, but at this point, I needed to be coddled and handled very carefully or I lost it and would start crying, again.  I know, I sound like a big baby, and I was!  I am not denying that one bit.  I was always a very sensitive child and in this particular situation, I was extra sensitive.

Parker, for me, was just easier to get along with in the beginning than Donna.  I don’t know if he felt sorry for me and made a point to be extra kind, or if he was just scared of me, walking on egg shells around me, so as not to set off the overly emotional teenage girl living in his home.  Either way, I don’t remember having too much of an issue with him in particular.

Now, Donna, on the other hand, she was and still is, I’m sure, a very strong willed woman.  She was tough, and strong and to be honest, she scared me a little, and if I wasn’t living in her house, with her rules, we probably would have gotten along swimmingly from the start.  What is funny about the whole thing is that the stuff that really irked me the most, while I was there, is the same things that I make my own children do now, like keeping your bed made and room clean, and picking up after yourself after you eat.  I mean really, can you imagine having to make your own bed and put away your dishes, WOW, was I ever mistreated.  HA!!  I have one particular story I want to share that describes the whole atmosphere perfectly.

Every place has critters that tend to enjoy the comforts of our homes, even if we don’t particularly enjoy their company.  In Trinidad, ours was the dreaded sugar ants.  You know, those teeny, tiny black ants that tend to get in your sugar or cereal.  Well, one afternoon we had been invited over to eat lunch at Parker and Donna’s house.  I took my regular seat, to the right of Parker, who sat at the foot of the table.  The food was blessed and it began making its way around the table.

Everyone began eating and I took a couple of bites of my food, including a bite or two of some peas.  While I was chewing and rather enjoying my peas I began peering down into my plate, I realized that something wasn’t quite right about the peas I was enjoying so very much.  As I took a closer look, I realized that, sure enough, these weren’t your ordinary peas, nope these peas were extra special.  As discretely as I possible could, I got my mom’s attention and directed it to the peas on my plate.  As she studied them, she came to the same realization and confirmed my deepest fears, that wasn’t pepper mixed in with our peas, nope, those were ants, not just a couple of ants, there were enough ants in those peas to give you the protein you needed in order to survive for a week without food.

We informed Donna of this and she examined them and decided that they were not ants, it was just pepper but she sure didn’t convince me and I don’t think she convinced anyone else around the table of it either, but being the respectful individuals that we were and knowing that in this house you completely cleaned your plate, we continued eating.

I was so proud of myself when I finally finished that last bite, so proud, that I pointed it out to whoever it was that was sitting to my right, which couldn’t have been but a couple of seconds of bragging triumphantly.  As I settled back into my chair with a proud sigh of relief, I glanced down, one last time, at my plate. To my astonishment and horror, there was another serving of those ant peas.  I wish I could’ve had a picture taken right at that moment of what my face must have looked like as I tried to figure out where in the world these things came from.  Manna from above was not an option, and Donna was at the opposite end of the table, there was no way she served it to me.

This bewilderment, on my part, only lasted a second or two, it became as clear as crystal, as soon as I glanced to my left. See, the quiet little man, sitting to my left, who had decided he wasn’t going to eat his peas, he was going to be brave and defy the woman sitting on the opposite side of the table, regardless of the consequences or at least this was what I thought as I watched him not eat his peas, while I forced mine down.  No, this man, seeing that I was able to keep them down, while I was turned to the right, bragging about finishing mine, dumped his, on my plate, and then sat, just as proud and triumphant as I had been five seconds earlier.  It was written all over his face.  Parker had won, he was still in good with his wife, and he knew good and well that I would eat those peas without a word, which I did.  You would think that this would’ve angered me but oddly enough, it just endeared him to me more, because now we had a moment, a secret, and a story to tell.

As the months continued on, Parker and Donna, easily became my family.  I adopted them as my grandparents and I adored them and still do today.  One of my proudest moments was when Donna asked me to teach her a song.  She new the basics to it but needed help with the alto.  She was a very strong alto and so for her to be asking me for help was one of the proudest moments for me.  I loved sitting next to her during church or anywhere we went.  She is one of those people that when she hugs you, you had better take a deep breath and brace yourself, because she hugs like a bear.  It was the same when she would hold your hand, tight and strong.  I love them dearly and they will always hold a very special place in my heart.

 

Living in a Third World Country (Part 3: Waking Up My Senses)

 

If you have not read, Living in a Third World Country: Part 1 and 2, you can find them here, Living in a Third World Country (part 1: Another Move), Living in a Third World Country (Part 2: Getting Settled)

That was the turning point for me, I believe.  After that night I had my “group”.  After that night I had been drawn out of my bubble and it opened up a whole new and exciting world.

Now, I haven’t done much descriptive talk about living in this country and how different everything really was for me.  Coming from Texas, I was unfamiliar with how the tropics looked and even felt.  I moved from a very dry, west Texas, and so the differences in atmosphere alone were shocking enough.  Yes, I was use to an overwhelming heat, but the humidity in this place was something I had never experienced before.  We were dealing with a 90 to 100% humidity at all times.  If you are unfamiliar with the Caribbean, it basically has two seasons, the rainy season and the dry season.  In the rainy season it rained everyday, the dry season was every other day.  I did enjoy the showers we would get during the day.

The smells, on the other hand, weren’t quite as enjoyable, especially in the beginning.  For the most part, people did not have air conditioning in their homes, we were not an exception.  So, because of this, our windows, along with everyone else on the Island, stayed open 24-7.  This promised that you were going to experience all the sounds and smells of the Island.  Sometimes, like after a rain, those smells were fantastic.  Other times, and for the majority of the time, you were smelling what everyone was cooking, and this didn’t begin around lunch, nope, this started first thing in the morning.  It was the most intrusive curry smell I had ever experienced.  I had not began to even tolerate this smell until months after we had moved there, mainly because I was not a fan of the food, quite yet.

Then there was the fantastic smell of the sugarcane factory.  If you have never smelled a sugarcane factory, there is no way to describe it.  It is a smell all in its own, and for me, it wasn’t a good one.  Now, the longer you live in an area, the less offensive these smells become, sometimes they even begin to grow on you and don’t cause you to completely gag.  The sugarcane mills did grow on me and that smell no longer bothered me too bad.  The continued curry smell, on the other hand, was never a smell I looked forward to at 6 o’clock in the morning.  By the time lunch rolled around, it smelled better, but bacon or coffee is all anyone should have to smell, that early, or donuts!

One of the only things I didn’t ever find myself complaining about was the scenery.  It was the Caribbean, after all.  It was amazing to me to finally see a palm tree that wasn’t on television or in a magazine.   The majority of the beaches in Trinidad weren’t much to write home about, but it was still a beach, something else I had never experienced.  Don’t get me wrong, there were beaches on the Island that were magazine worthy.  Maracas Bay was that place for us.  Tobago, Trinidad’s sister island was the place you really wanted to be, if you were a tourist and the only reason you were there was for the beaches.  I did make it over to Tobago for a week, and it didn’t disappoint.

Our home was what most people would consider a beach house.  It was on stilts and we lived upstairs and parked underneath.  The inside of our particular house was pretty normal. Three bedroom, two bath, with an open floor living, dining, and kitchen area.  It was a nice house for this country.  I think the oddest thing about it was that it was gated.  There was a doorbell on the gate and  if you had a visitor, instead of knocking on the front door, you rang the bell and we would come out to the balcony and yell from there.  You can keep your gate open but with dad gone most of the day at school, we typically kept it closed and locked.  Now I am aware that this is not strictly a Trinidad thing, but when you live in Texas, it is odd.

 

Now, as I ventured off with my dad, when he was evangelizing and going from door to door to share the Gospel, I came to a quick realization that we were truly blessed to be living where we were.  I remember going in one home that was pretty much on 4 posts and had a wooden ladder you climbed to get in.  It was tiny inside for this young, growing, three person family.  One small couch was in the living room and the bedroom was about 3 feet, directly across from the couch, separated by a curtain.  The kitchen was large enough to have a stove and a small fridge and one person in it at a time.  I do not remember seeing a bathroom.  A rain barrel was the only “fresh” water they had for cooking and cleaning, which was a typical fixture for all the houses on the Island.  Despite all of this, they were the most hospitable people I had ever met, offering up something to drink and large plates of food.  They just wanted to share anything they had and were beyond joyful to do it.   Seeing something like that and then seeing how generous they are, really makes you reevaluate everything.

I would come to appreciate things I never even considered before, things I easily took for granted.  It was impossible not to.

 

 

 

Living in a Third World Country (Part 2: Getting Settled)

If you haven’t read part 1 of Living in a Third World Country do so here, Living in a Third World Country (part 1: Another Move)

Leaving the airport that hot, muggy night, I had no idea what was in store for me at that moment in time.  I wish so bad I could go back somehow and talk to that insecure and timid 15 year old girl.  I would start off by telling her that it was all going to work out and it would be one of the most amazing experiences of her entire life, and to chill out and enjoy every moment while you have it to enjoy, because it would go by so quickly.

I do have to take a brief moment to describe the vehicle we rode in to get to our new home.  I am only doing this because this vehicle would become such a memorable character in our lives as much as a living, breathing person does.  It was simply known as, the Van. I am sure it had its nicknames that were provided to it by numerous people, but I just referred to it as, the Van.  This vehicle was an old white, no nose automobile, ugly as they come.  It had rusted out holes where, if you were inclined, you could count the pot holes you where driving over as they went under your feet.  Being that the vehicle had no air conditioning, the sliding plexiglass windows had been used to the point of not closing anymore.  If it rained you literally held your umbrella open, inside the van, trying to block out at least some of the rain that was coming in.  That van holds a very special place in my heart now.  It was always an adventure in itself just to ride in it.  Thankfully that night it wasn’t raining.

We stayed with another American couple who also worked at the school, for about 2 weeks, while we waited for our house to be ready and for the rest of our belongings to arrive.  We brought only what would fit inside two large crates, which wasn’t much.  It was like Christmas time when our crates finally arrived.  We began to get settled in our own house, which was next door to the American couple we would be working with.  I will elaborate on this couple later, as they became like another set of grandparents to me.

Settling into your new home, where you don’t have to venture out and actually interact with people and really come into the full reality of where you are and how different the culture is, was easy.  The hard part was actually having to act like some kind of normal functioning teenager, if there really is such a thing, when we did go out.  I remember the very first church service I attended.  It was an evening service and the people where beyond friendly and accepting.  They were so excited to have us there. Oh how I wish I had felt the same at that time.  I tried to hide my fears and overwhelming sadness by hiding behind my mom and staying as close as I could to her and my dad.

My little sister, although a little timid at first, was quick to already have several little girls hanging all over her, admiring her hair and the way she spoke.  Jessi has always been outgoing and made friends way too easily.  I was polar opposite, happy to be under my mom and dad at all times, especially here.

It is beyond difficult to even remotely pretend that you are excited to be here with all these people who are trying to make this transition as easy as possible when you have tears streaming down your face.  I just wanted to go home! Not back to the house with some of our belongings in it, but back to Texas, back to my friends, back to where I was comfortable.  I was not made to be here, in this place.  At least that is what I thought.  How wrong I was about that.

After services, the church had prepared a get together with food and drinks to welcome us and get to know us a little better.  At this point I started to feel myself shutting down inside, not even wanting to hide my pain, my fears, or even my anger.  It was about this time that a girl came up to me, grabbed my hand, and pulled me away from the only comfort zone I had at that time, my mom.

I remember that moment so vividly.  I was scared and unsure and it took this person coming over and forcing me to interact for me to actually do it.  She said her name was Chrystal and then proceeded to pull me over to a larger group of teenagers who began introducing themselves to me.

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Crystal and I. 

To be honest, I don’t remember anyone else who was in that group.  I just remember her, at that moment, saving me from myself.  From that moment on, she was my person.  From that point on, my comfort zone began to grow.

 

 

Living in a Third World Country (part 1: Another Move)

 

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Mom, Dad, my little sister Jessi, and me fixing to board the plane headed to Trinidad.

Towards the end of my freshman year in high school, my dad sat my sisters and me down in our living room in Big Spring, Texas, and began to lay out what the next two years would potentially look like for us.

I knew this set up all to well, as we had had these,”family meetings,” many times in my life.  I knew the exact words that were fixing to spill out of my dad’s mouth, “We are moving.”

See, I am a preacher’s kid.  My dad has been a church of Christ preacher for over 35 years.  Moving was not a foreign concept to my family, though it was never an easy thing to do.  Before I was 14, I had lived in 5 different places, mostly in Texas, although we had a brief stay in Colorado.  I always adjusted, I think pretty well, and was happy wherever we ended up.

So, as we sat, anxiously awaiting why we had been called together, my dad proceeded to let us know that we were moving.  Out of all the times that we had had this discussion, this is the only one that I remember so vividly in my mind.  I don’t know if it was because I was older and was the happiest in our current location or if it was because of what came out of his mouth next.  See, this time we weren’t just moving to another part of Texas.  This time my dad hadn’t accepted another preaching job.  This time was different.

My dad had accepted a teaching job, at a preaching school, in another country, a third world country.  Now, to give my dad some credit, he did make it sound kind of cool and like this huge adventure that we were fixing to embark on.  I mean, we were fixing to move to the Caribbean, Trinidad to be exact, for at least the next two years.  Who wouldn’t want to live in the Caribbean, right?  Well, at this time in my life, THIS GIRL!

Through my sobbing, however, my dad layed out our future for the next two years.  In my previous post, Why We Chose to Homeschool, I explained how I had wanted to be homeschooled most of my life.  My wish was coming true.  Being that it was going to be such a drastic change in our surroundings and lifestyle, my parents knew that homeschooling my younger sister and me would be the best for us.  I was extremely grateful for this decision on my parents part, because I sure didn’t want to go to school there.  So, one point for my parents on making this a little easier.  Also, we would only be there throughout the school year and would be back in the states for the summer, visiting our supporting congregations and family.  Two points.  I was also still able to go to the Bible camp I had attended each summer for 4 years.  Three points.  This was starting to sound okay, I guess. I mean, I might as well embrace it, because it was going to happen whether I wanted it to or not.

So a couple of weeks before the school year started for the Trinidad School of Preaching and Teaching, we headed over the ocean on a 9 hour flight, which by the way, was the first time I had ever flown on a plane, way to dive in head first.  I think I cried for those entire nine hours.  We arrived in Port of Spain, Trinidad, after dark, probably around midnight, I can’t remember, I just know it was late.  We made it to customs, and our passports were all stamped, and Dad’s two year work visa checked out.  We were officially cleared to begin this new and exciting adventure in our lives (although, at that time I didn’t think it was exciting, more like terrifying).

To continue on click here, Living in a Third World Country (Part 2: Getting Settled)

 

5 Things I Wish I Knew Before Homeschooling

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August of this year will kick off our third year of homeschooling.  While I am still making mistakes, learning, and growing, I would like to share some things that I wish I had known before I began this journey.  0105160915.jpg

  1. ONE SIZE DOES NOT FIT ALL
    I can not begin to express how true this statement is.  From what curriculum is right for your child, to how your children learn, one size does not fit all.  I was suggested a certain curriculum by a homeschooling friend of mine when I first started considering homeschooling.  She had used this particular curriculum for a year and had loved it.  Her kids seemed to enjoy it as well.  So, what worked for them, surely would work for us, right?  Unfortunately, this was not the case.  Although I did like some of the aspects of this curriculum, I felt like I was having to supplement quite a bit, and if I am going to purchase a full curriculum then I don’t really want to have to supplement. I stuck with it for 2 years, unhappy and unsatisfied, afraid to change.
  2. DON’T BE AFRAID TO TRY SOMETHING NEW
    Although I know my kids learned a lot during those two years, and I don’t feel like they were wasted, I still regret not trying something new sooner.  I have heard others say, “If you aren’t happy with something, change it, even if it is in the middle of your school year.”  There are so many resources and curriculums to choose from, there is no reason why you should stay with something you don’t like.  TRY SOMETHING NEW!!!
  3. BE FLEXIBLE
    This is one that didn’t take me too long to figure out.  You are homeschooling now, you are not confined to the regular public school schedule.  If your children learn better with a schedule then that is fantastic.  If your children do better setting there own pace and taking multiple breaks during the day, then let them.  Every child learns differently.  My daughter tends to be done with her work so much faster than my son.  She is self motivated and doesn’t procrastinate.  My son, on the other hand, needs more guidance and encouragement to keep going.  He needs the downtime that breaks provide for him.
  4. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH ENCOURAGING PEOPLE
    This one is pretty self explanatory.  You need encouragement and people that believe in you and what you are doing to keep you motivated.  Homeschooling is not an easy thing to do, by any means, and if you are constantly having to endure negativity from the people around you, then you aren’t going to last long.  Everyone seems to give their opinion whether you want it or not.  I had one lady tell me, “I feel sorry for your kids.”  Apparently she feels that since they are schooled at home, they can’t have any friends or any extra curricular activities outside our home, which is far from reality.  One more thing, take advantage of any homeschool groups that are in your community, they are the most encouraging and helpful people you will meet.
  5. SOMETIMES YOU JUST NEED A BREAK!
    Homeschooling, at times, can be stressful, intimidating, overwhelming, and just down right hard.  Don’t let those moments define your perception of the whole.  We all have bad days no matter what our lives look like.  If you find yourself having one of these days, take a break.  Let your kids go outside and play.  Give yourself a break.  We tend to go to the beach with some of our homeschool friends about once a week.  It is better to take a day off then be stressed throughout your learning time.